In my previous article, I wrote the following
"I am nobody, but someone in the eyes of the theater show being played. In every scene, I am someone for that someone. However, after the essence, I am nobody."
Believe whatever you want to believe about me or what anyone else says.I myself do not have the strength to be continuously preoccupied with what people will think. I'm more concerned about what I think about myself. My own thoughts of having to get up from a hotel bed again tomorrow and stare at the emptiness again with an empty look. How long? What is the reason? How many experiences do I need to have before it ends? How much self-reflection is needed? If nobody is present in the essence code, How much longer do I have to play in the space, empty space 99.9999 percent of the time?
What is this writer doing now? I am in the process of transformation and challenge everyone to transform as well.
It is the goal of transformational counseling to assist another person alter his or her life. It is not about changing one's life to transform it. While life is largely about trying new things, transformation begins with a person adjusting or reforming their belief or notion about who they are.We have a tendency to assume that people, places, things, events, and circumstances control or affect our lives and that who we are is simply the sum of our prior experiences, but this is not the case. Instead, our ideas and beliefs shape our experiences and lives, and we are entirely and solely responsible for their production. Our emotions and actions in the environment are determined by what we think and believe, especially about ourselves, and our behavior only verifies what we think and believe about ourselves. Furthermore, we believe or believe that we understand who we are in life, but the truth is that we do not. We are just not aware of much of who we are at our core. Much of our lives are spent in deception, and we are unaware of who we truly are.
Given how much of our lives are lived under the guise of ego, becoming present to what is hidden, to who we are in life, is critical for growth.One will uncover what is defining one's life, referred to here as one's self-limiting belief, in that which is mostly hidden from us. The first step in the transformative process is to become aware of the underlying ideas and beliefs that have been holding you back in life, particularly your self-limiting beliefs. The fundamental limitation or obstacle to one's life, to him living a life that he loves and living it effectively, is found in the existence of a self-limiting belief. We spend our lives based on who we believe we are. Our lives are framed by who we believe we are. Having the ability to recognize or distinguish the self-limiting idea assist one to not be it, to not live one's life as if it were only a possible, virtually definite future from the past. Without the distinction of the self-limiting belief, one's life will continue to develop against the backdrop of this ideational barrier, and life will appear much the same as it did previously.
Existence reveals what has been hidden, what has been truly defining his being in life, and gives one the opportunity to change his life.The second component of the transformational process is for the individual to begin to develop his life as a possibility once he has figured out who he has been in life. Once the self-limiting notion has been identified, the individual may actually build a new option for himself and his life. Getting rid of the self-limiting idea gives room or an opening for a possibility or possibilities to emerge from or out of nothing, rather than as a result or product of the barrier or limitation. Possibility can only be formed from a state of nothingness. Possibility exists in language, just as it does in self-limiting thought. Once one understands the language he has been using, the language that has defined and constrained him as a result of his self-limiting mindset, he may begin to re-create himself using the power of his words. Our words define who we are. Possibility and transformation are accessed through one's language or words formed from nothing. The approach outlined below is intended to assist an individual become aware of a self-limiting notion and, as a result, generate the space or opening necessary for him to conceive of a possibility or possibilities for remaking his life.
Locate a quiet, comfortable place to sit for about an hour.Make sure there are no distractions in this area. Allow yourself to relax for a moment. Become aware of where you are and who you are. The use of therapeutic relaxation music can help to produce a deep sensation of relaxation, which can further enhance the experience.
2. Get a notepad and begin writing down anything that you believe characterizes or defines who you are.Allow your thoughts to roam without filtering or blocking out anything. Simply write down anything that comes to mind about yourself, including how you feel and what you think about yourself. Single words or brief sentences might express who you think you are or what best defines you. If you're in a group, share your self-description with the others. Make two lists as well, since there may appear to be both positive and negative elements to who you believe you are.
3. Place your notepad on the table, close your eyes, and take another deep breath.The use of therapeutic relaxation music will aid you in achieving a profound level of relaxation once again. Allow yourself to float back through time, through your life, through maturity, adolescence, and into infancy as you begin to drift into a profound state of relaxation. Allow yourself to become aware of how you were, your experiences, thoughts, and feelings as you progressed through the several periods or stages of your life. Simply become aware of, or aware of what appears to you.
4. Return to your journal, and open your eyes again. Examine what you've written and add anything about yourself that you were aware of during the above-mentioned relaxation practice. Again, don't filter anything out; instead, let whatever comes to the surface, both good and bad phrases that best define who you believe and feel you are or were, rise to the top.
5. Once you've finished making both positive and negative lists, remember that the good aspects of who you think you are constitute the facade of your life, and its purpose or role is to correct the negative aspects of who you think you are.
6. Give yourself permission to be present with the negativity you've put down. Consider which of the negatives most accurately describes who you are, what you generally believe and feel about yourself, and what you have experienced in your mind in the past and even today. Declare your self-limiting belief to be the negative part that you are most familiar with.
7. Sit down with your notepad on your lap. Allow yourself to become fully aware of the reality that what you've written is you, who you think you are. Become aware of an inauthentic way of being, with the good serving as a ruse and the negative serving as something we keep hidden from ourselves and the world.
8. Go back in time with the journal. Place your notepad on your left if you are right-handed. Place your notepad on your right if you are left-handed. Place the notebook about three feet away from your face.
9. Allow yourself to become aware of where your notebook is in relation to your body, to the right or left, once you've placed it in the past. Allow yourself to refocus on what you wrote in your notebook as who you feel you are and that it exists to your right or left.
10. Once you've gotten present to who you imagine yourself to be and the description of yourself that you've written, allow yourself to become present to what's right in front of you.Given that who you believe you are is to your left or right, pay attention to what is in front of you: nothing, an aperture through which anything and everything is available.
11. From the nothing that appears in front of you, create a possibility or possibilities for yourself and your life.Declare to yourself, in language or phrase, your possibilities for who you will become in life.This statement also serves as your own proclamation of who you will be to and for the world.
12. Do this exercise on a daily basis. Repeating this activity on a regular basis will help you to be present to your self-limiting belief as well as the potential or possibilities that you have developed and imagined for yourself and your life.Continuing this process will help you to uncover the self-limiting belief even further. The self-limiting idea that one first becomes aware of may provide much more information about who one is or has been.
The above exercise is about the work of the first two components of transformational counseling and how to start the transformation process. The third component of transformation entails understanding the process of enrolling once one has distinguished his self-limiting belief and created a possibility or possibilities for himself and his life. Enrollment is a strong approach for staying in touch with one's potential and letting go of self-limiting beliefs. Making a daily plan is the fourth step in the transformation process. On a daily basis, the daily plan helps you to continue to live into or develop your potential. A commitment to stay in the change discourse is the sixth component of transformation. Staying in the dialogue allows you to experience the nonlinear character of change and keep the process alive in your life.
Love and Peace